Stress makes it hard to think

Giving up the delusion of control helps. Driving cross country is a great way to see the US of A in all its variation. And there’s more than one way to do it. East-west comes to mind first, and there’s the northern tier states, the southern tier, and the middle. Then there’s north-south—east coast, westContinue reading “Stress makes it hard to think”

Calmer than you are

There’s a scene from The Big Lebowski where the Dude is upset, and hotheaded Walter brags, “Calmer than you are.” But we all know that Walter is faking it. What does it really mean to not worry about things that are not up to us? I just completed a cross-country move to be closer to family.Continue reading “Calmer than you are”

Anxiety and locus of control

Do you focus on your choices or on events you don’t control? In book two part thirteen of his Discourses Epictetus makes an astute observation: When I see someone in a state of anxiety I say, “What is it that he wants?” For unless he wanted something that was not within his power, how could he stillContinue reading “Anxiety and locus of control”