Being judged sucks

But how I handle it is up to me. Is the author of the Harry Potter series really a transphobe? We haven’t heard a peep from JK Rowling since the Twitter storm erupted just before Christmas. She defended Maya Forstater, a feminist who was fired from a think tank for tweeting her opinion that becauseContinue reading “Being judged sucks”

Why “toxic masculinity” is nonsense

Abuse, not gender, creates pathology. Every day we look at the headlines, only to find bad news. Another mass shooting. Another sexual assault. More abused children. Toxic masculinity. It’s so bad that men are even sitting improperly on the subway (“manspreading”) and expressing their opinions in condescending ways (“mansplaining”). Does that seem to trivialize theContinue reading “Why “toxic masculinity” is nonsense”

Why it’s hard to talk about men’s issues

Competing ideological filters disincentivize nuance. November 19 was international men’s day. And world toilet day. Both passed largely unnoticed. It’s challenging to talk about men’s issues without appearing to play the victim. The progressive solution is to focus on how men can support women. For example, domestic violence is a men’s issue because men mustContinue reading “Why it’s hard to talk about men’s issues”

Maybe we can’t get past our pain, but we can get past our tunnel vision

Canyon de Chelly, Arizona © Dave DuBay I just finished watching Ken Burns’ documentary series on the Roosevelts. Eleanor Roosevelt is known to history as a kindhearted person, a woman of character who treated others with human dignity. She was the primary mover behind the United Nations Universal Declaration of Human Rights. And there’s Mr. Rogers who taughtContinue reading “Maybe we can’t get past our pain, but we can get past our tunnel vision”

Is there a link between teen suicide, school shootings, & social media?

Mass shootings—especially at schools—have gotten a lot of attention, but there’s another type of violence that kills far more teens. Suicide. I was talking with a middle school principal the other day. He said teen suicide is increasing at an alarming rate. The Centers for Disease Control agree. The CDC says teen suicide peaked in the earlyContinue reading “Is there a link between teen suicide, school shootings, & social media?”

My disagreements with MGTOW

What does it mean to be independent? A few months back I wrote that men’s roles are changing in unexpected ways. One example I gave are men going their own way (MGTOW). MGTOW are against marriage, and many eschew relationships with women altogether. They claim society is gynocentric: men being expected to accommodate feminism whileContinue reading “My disagreements with MGTOW”

Feminism and incivility

Incivility is the order of the day. And this incivility finds its roots in moralistic self-righteousness, which leads to a sense of urgency where any means are justified. Such people don’t even realize they’ve abandoned their values. That’s one reason why President Donald Trump’s supporters are willing to excuse anything he does. But this phenomenon is notContinue reading “Feminism and incivility”

The Red Pill: A controversial documentary about the men’s rights movement

The latest documentary by sometime feminist Cassie Jaye has caused no small amount of controversy. More so than previous documentaries such as Daddy I Do, where she criticizes purity balls and father’s attempts to protect their daughter’s virginity. Or The Right to Love, which supports the fight for marriage equality. The Red Pill looks at theContinue reading “The Red Pill: A controversial documentary about the men’s rights movement”

Can you believe in gender equality but not be a feminist?

If you believe in gender equality then you’re a feminist. If you doubt that then look feminism up in the dictionary. It’s a popular argument that’s difficult to disagree with without being labeled anti-equality. But does it follow that if you’re not a feminist then you’re anti-equality? It reminds me of the question, “How can you be moral if youContinue reading “Can you believe in gender equality but not be a feminist?”

Mother Wound: Am I a Traitor?

A topic I’d rather avoid came to the forefront recently via the myriad connections of the world wide web. Be Brave Campaign (to which I’ve previously contributed) highlighted a Huffington Post article by Rick Belden, a sometime contributor to insideMAN (a blog I’ve also contributed to). It’s almost like a conspiracy theory (if your imagination is vibrantContinue reading “Mother Wound: Am I a Traitor?”