Is Stoicism bad for men?

Stoics don’t repress emotions, they put emotions into perspective. Traditional masculinity is harmful. Or so says the American Psychological Association. The APA’s blog declares that, ” traditional masculinity—marked by stoicism, competitiveness, dominance and aggression—is, on the whole, harmful.” The APA’s claim raises many questions. Is that really all masculinity is? What positive aspects of masculinityContinue reading “Is Stoicism bad for men?”

Why “toxic masculinity” is nonsense

Abuse, not gender, creates pathology. Every day we look at the headlines, only to find bad news. Another mass shooting. Another sexual assault. More abused children. Toxic masculinity. It’s so bad that men are even sitting improperly on the subway (“manspreading”) and expressing their opinions in condescending ways (“mansplaining”). Does that seem to trivialize theContinue reading “Why “toxic masculinity” is nonsense”

Why it’s hard to talk about men’s issues

Competing ideological filters disincentivize nuance. November 19 was international men’s day. And world toilet day. Both passed largely unnoticed. It’s challenging to talk about men’s issues without appearing to play the victim. The progressive solution is to focus on how men can support women. For example, domestic violence is a men’s issue because men mustContinue reading “Why it’s hard to talk about men’s issues”

A Mani-Cure

Sometimes a guy needs to have his nails done. I’m obsessed with filing my fingernails’ sharp corners. I even buy sandpaper sticks. It’s all because I broke my wrist six years ago this month. Breaking a wrist doesn’t hurt as much as you might think. It didn’t hurt at all until later that night. ClumsyContinue reading “A Mani-Cure”

The Red Pill: A controversial documentary about the men’s rights movement

The latest documentary by sometime feminist Cassie Jaye has caused no small amount of controversy. More so than previous documentaries such as Daddy I Do, where she criticizes purity balls and father’s attempts to protect their daughter’s virginity. Or The Right to Love, which supports the fight for marriage equality. The Red Pill looks at theContinue reading “The Red Pill: A controversial documentary about the men’s rights movement”

The Painted Porch

Stoicism is valuable. – Stoicism has a bad reputation. I’ve criticized it in the past. But my misunderstandings were based on the colloquial sense of stoic in contrast to Stoicism as a philosophy. And Stoicism’s core idea is a good one: you can’t control anything except yourself, so don’t sweat the rest. The problem withContinue reading “The Painted Porch”

Mother Wound: Am I a Traitor?

A topic I’d rather avoid came to the forefront recently via the myriad connections of the world wide web. Be Brave Campaign (to which I’ve previously contributed) highlighted a Huffington Post article by Rick Belden, a sometime contributor to insideMAN (a blog I’ve also contributed to). It’s almost like a conspiracy theory (if your imagination is vibrantContinue reading “Mother Wound: Am I a Traitor?”

Book Review: The Way of the Superior Man

Carrying around a book with a title like this might lead people to think I’m a narcissist. So I leave the book at home. The Way of the Superior Man by David Deida has some good points, and some significant problems. It’s billed as a spiritual guide, but I found its spirituality to be over the top. Then again, I’m anContinue reading “Book Review: The Way of the Superior Man”

Who Should Pay For Dinner?

A post recently appeared in my Facebook newsfeed. And again. And again. It’s gone viral. My first reaction was that a mother making her 6 year old boy take her on dates that the boy pays for – so he can learn how to be a gentleman – is reminiscent of dads taking their daughtersContinue reading “Who Should Pay For Dinner?”