Why it’s hard to talk about men’s issues

Competing ideological filters disincentivize nuance. November 19 was international men’s day. And world toilet day. Both passed largely unnoticed. It’s challenging to talk about men’s issues without appearing to play the victim. The progressive solution is to focus on how men can support women. For example, domestic violence is a men’s issue because men mustContinue reading “Why it’s hard to talk about men’s issues”

The Red Pill: A controversial documentary about the men’s rights movement

The latest documentary by sometime feminist Cassie Jaye has caused no small amount of controversy. More so than previous documentaries such as Daddy I Do, where she criticizes purity balls and father’s attempts to protect their daughter’s virginity. Or The Right to Love, which supports the fight for marriage equality. The Red Pill looks at theContinue reading “The Red Pill: A controversial documentary about the men’s rights movement”

Mother Wound: Am I a Traitor?

A topic I’d rather avoid came to the forefront recently via the myriad connections of the world wide web. Be Brave Campaign (to which I’ve previously contributed) highlighted a Huffington Post article by Rick Belden, a sometime contributor to insideMAN (a blog I’ve also contributed to). It’s almost like a conspiracy theory (if your imagination is vibrantContinue reading “Mother Wound: Am I a Traitor?”

Book Review: The Way of the Superior Man

Carrying around a book with a title like this might lead people to think I’m a narcissist. So I leave the book at home. The Way of the Superior Man by David Deida has some good points, and some significant problems. It’s billed as a spiritual guide, but I found its spirituality to be over the top. Then again, I’m anContinue reading “Book Review: The Way of the Superior Man”

Who Should Pay For Dinner?

A post recently appeared in my Facebook newsfeed. And again. And again. It’s gone viral. My first reaction was that a mother making her 6 year old boy take her on dates that the boy pays for – so he can learn how to be a gentleman – is reminiscent of dads taking their daughtersContinue reading “Who Should Pay For Dinner?”

The Commitment Phobia Myth

It’s been almost six years since my divorce, but only recently have I prioritized my romantic future. I’m not alone in taking it slow. I know other men who got divorced in their 30s or 40s but didn’t remarry until over a decade later. We’re told that men are afraid of commitment, but there’s not much evidenceContinue reading “The Commitment Phobia Myth”

Grandma & Rita. Also, Nurse Jackie: Another Mixed Up Not Quite Movie Review

I don’t really write movie reviews. I’ll say I liked a movie without saying exactly why, then I’ll point to something about the movie that made me think, and I’ll go off on a tangent. So bear with me. Oh, and spoilers everywhere. Grandma stars Lily Tomlin as grandma, aka Elle Reid. I’ve loved LilyContinue reading “Grandma & Rita. Also, Nurse Jackie: Another Mixed Up Not Quite Movie Review”

Is There A Right to Become a Parent?

What do you do when one person’s rights conflict with someone else’s rights? You might see my alleged right as a sense of entitlement. Your right to free speech conflicts with my right not to be offended. Your religious rights conflict with my right to marry the person I love. Your right to become a parent conflicts with my rightContinue reading “Is There A Right to Become a Parent?”

A Response to a Podcast from Boys Cry Too Blogger

Christine Walker, who blogs at Boys Cry Too, recently did a podcast that I really enjoyed listening to. There’s a lot to say in response because this is the sort of thing that creates important discussions. I suggest that readers visit her blog and listen to the podcast to better understand my comments. My commentsContinue reading “A Response to a Podcast from Boys Cry Too Blogger”

Refusing Service: The Latest Is a Barbershop

We all know about county clerks refusing to issue marriages licenses to gay and lesbian couples. And bakers and photographers refusing to provide their services at same sex weddings. The latest is a barber refusing to cut a woman’s hair. But unlike discrimination against lesbians and gay men, the Civil Rights Act of 1964 makes gender discrimination unambiguous:Continue reading “Refusing Service: The Latest Is a Barbershop”